Second… Remember that everyone’s there to support you, not laugh at you.

Third… remember that, from the minister’s perspective, he or she only has to hear that you mean what you say: e.g. you’re meant to say “I will” when asked if you will take this woman in marriage: but if you say, “Yes I do,” or even “I’d love to,” that will do, in that when it comes to the crunch, we as clergy are just asked to ensure that people mean what they say, and that they are going into this ceremony willingly. The exact words aren’t crucial in that sense. So if you stumble over your words a bit, don’t worry. You won’t have to come back the next day and do it again.

Fourth… in my experience, there is a real, and appropriate tension in a wedding service: basically, the ceremony gets more and more tense until the priest gets to say, “I now declare you husband and wife,” and after that, almost instantly, everyone loses all your nerves and it’ll be a happy run of adrenline and joy for the rest of the day. You’ve crossed the finishing line and you can relax. A bit like scoring the third away goal in a European cup tie: you’re definitely through to the next round. It’s remarkable how the atmosphere really builds up to that moment and then the tension just gets released. Every single time.

So… don’t worry too much, if you can. But do worry a bit. It shows that you mean it.
From Robert Stainer- Minister in Lambeth

Well, here it is. I got this from a guy called OLAMILD ENTERTAINMENT and he is making it a point of duty in getting the top 50 naija wedding songs much to my pleasure. He says the songs are not rated in any form or order just a compilation of wedding and love songs. You can actually listen to songs on his site!

(25) D’banj – Fall in Love

(24) Wande Coal – Ololufe

(23) P Square – No one like you
(22) Tuface Idibia – African Queen
(21) Terry G- This Love
(20) Shola Allison – Eji Owuro
(19) Eldee – You are the only one
(18) Tuface Idibia – If love is a crime
(17) TJ – Elewe Ukwu
(16) OJB- Lover’s Anthem
(15) Bracket – Yori Yori
(14) Paul Play – Angel of my Life
(13) 9ice – Wedding Day
(12) Sunny Neji – Oruka
(11) Dare Art Alade – With this Woman
(10) Banky W- Till my Dying Day
(9) Banky W- I adore you
(8) Faze – Share my Heart
(7) Sammy Okposo – I do (the wedding song)
(6) Tosin Martins – Olo Mi
(5) GT the Guitarman – Truly
(4) Jeremiah Gyang – In Love with you
(3) Jeremiah Gyang- You’re my Fire
(2) Jeremiah Gyang – The Only One
(1) Jeremiah Gyang – My Proposition

In love with you by Jeremiah Gyang

Make a guest list- Ask the stag which friends he will like to see at the do and work out a number. He might not really like the idea of having his work colleagues and bride’s father or brother around. In that case a separate outing could be arranged getting a number of between 8-20 is just enough number to deal with.

Make contact with the stags- Get the final names of those invited, their email addresses and number from the groom the groom to be. Get in contact with them by group emails or facebook and work out their budget and also if any has a cause of concern like alcohol, smoking, special diet e.t.c. Always keep them in the loop on the goings on the plan.

Look into the options- Considering the budget of the stags, start looking into the options of where and what you can do for the stag day. Get ideas from the stags and choose all available alternatives it could just be going away for the weekend, pub night or sightseeing. Whatever you choose to do, the groom to be should have the final say and approval

Bridge over Troubled Water by Simon & Garfunkle

I Hope You Dance by Leann Womark

You’ve Got a Friend by James Taylor

Walk with you by Edwin McCain

My Girl by Temptations

My Wish by Rascal Flatts

I Loved Her First by Tim Mcgraw

My Little Girl by Tim Mcgraw

Daddy Dont Let Go by Out of Ether

When You Come Back Down by Nickel Creek

Daddy by Beyonce

Because You Loved Me by Celine Dion

I’ll always be your daughter by Lynn Leonti/ Jim McShane

Dance With My Father by Celin Dion / Luther Van Dross

I Learned From You by Billy Ray and Miley Cyrus

In My Daughter’s Eyes by Martina McBride

In My Life by the Beatles

Feel free to add  more to the list!

Don’t get me wrong. Kids are fun to be with and just heavenly especially on wedding days but mosttimes you will agree with me they need to be kept busy during the ceremony.

Went to a friends wedding and everything was going pretty well until two little kids decided to play on the stage . Quite a scene  seeing the  host play super nanny and keeping the guest well entertained. Not so for the bride though who did not find it funny one bit!

When you invite guests with children,  you want to make provisions for the kids. You want to make sure there are no potential child hazards  in the reception venue . you have baby changing facilities to ease mothers.

To get the kids entertained, these are some of the things you could do.

1, Create a table especially for kids full of crayons, pencil, story books, box of  colourful toys e. t.c then assign an adult to engage them while the programme is on. This table  should most probably be at the back of the venue so that any disruption at all can be contained easily and parents can keep an eye on their kids

2, If possible, hire a trampoline or bouncy castle outside   to keep them away from the reception area. The trampoline should have an enclosure to prevent any falls. (A first aid kit should be readily available just in case)

3, Hire a face painter ,children’s entertainer or a clown to keep them well entertained while the show is on.

4, Assign the Best man and Chief bridesmaid the role of taking care of the flower girls and ring bearer.

Be creative, think of ways or things that would get kids excited enough to stay away from the NO-Go- Areas

Remember a trusted adult is always needed for supervision.