For Men: The Groom’s Role in A Couple’s Wedding Plans
Feb 4th, 2008 by My Wedding Nigeria
Did you think the organising of a wedding was all down to the bride to plan? No, not at all. The wedding is made up of a bride and a groom, so therefore the groom also has an important role to play in the wedding plans.
Guys, this is just for you! Get involved, don’t feel left out. There’s so much you can do.
The wedding rings - this is an important role for you. Make sure you have purchased them and then keep them safe until your wedding day.
Your best man - This is your job. Choose someone who is important to you, who you are close to. Someone who has been there for you and who will continue to be there for you and your wife to be after the wedding. Make sure the person you choose will take the role of best man seriously and responsibly too.
You and your fiancee have to sit down and decide on your guest list. You can then help in ordering, writing and delivering the wedding invitations. There is also the location of the ceremony and reception to decide on and to book. This should be done well in advance to avoid the disappointment of it not being available on the day.
Choose your formal wear for yourself, your best man and any groomsmen you also may have.
One of the most important jobs for you to do is wedding speech. This must come from the heart. Sit down and take time to write it well. Don’t make the speech too long as you will lose people’s attention. Its always nice to include how beautiful your wife looks and how blessed and proud you are to now call her your wife. Complement the bridesmaids and thank your best man and your groomsmen for the great jobs they have all done. Most importantly is to thank everyone for taking the time to come and have a share in your special day.
So you see guys, there are plenty of things to keep you busy in preparation for your wedding day. Planning your wedding should be something you do together as a couple and makes the up-coming wedding more exciting for the both of you. So get in there and enjoy it!
How about a case of the groom doing all the planniong that the bride ought to be doing??? does that not give a sign of a gap in the future???how does one make the bride more committed to the wedding plans if one’s bride is laid back????
Usually we think of the bride to be the most excited and keen to plan and arrange the wedding but it is not always the case. She may be feeling abit overwhelmed at the whole planning that is involved. It might be wise to have a chat with her and find out how she is feeling and her reasons behind not wanting to be involved much in it.
Try and encourage her to do things together as a couple, eg. sitting down together to write the guest list, the invitations, choosing the cake and flowers together etc. Planning a wedding can be stressful for both of you but look forward to your happy day and starting your married life together.
You seem to be doing an excellent job in planning the wedding so well done to you. Many women would like their fiance to share more in the planning so your bride is a lucky lady. Have a wonderful wedding!
what should one do in a situation where the groom is not sensitive to the anxiety of the bride towards the wedding preparation. He has never been involved in planning a wedding and as such does not see the need to plan well ahead of time. Sometimes he is just indifferent about the plans because he feels they can easily be sorted out later. However, he is excited about the big day. Only he is not encouraging in the planning.
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Hello timi
You are not on your own with this one. Many many bride-to-be’s feel like this when planning their wedding. Guys in general sometimes feel that its more a women’s area of expertise and prefer to leave a lot of it to them to decide and arrange weddings.
It can be frustrating at times, as you may feel you are doing most of the work or maybe that he isn’t that interested in it all. It’s hard work planning everything for a wedding, and it can be very tiring, but by the time your big day arrives it is all worth it!!
Maybe you could sit down with him when you have some time on your own. Explain how you feel, maybe pick a few things that you could arrange together such as the invitations etc. Let him know that you would appreciate his time and his ideas on a few things. After all, it is his big day too. Don’t push him though, the last thing you need is to have a reluctant groom helping, as it could be more of an hindrance in your planning than a help.
Hope all your wedding plans are a success and your wedding day is a day for you both to remember!